Carrie is nine years old. She’s going into the fourth grade this year. I’ve spent the last several years of her life explaining to people that autism does not necessarily mean mental retardation. To put it bluntly, this kid ain’t stupid. She’s funny, tricky, brilliant, and downright conniving when she wants to be!
Last night, she ate her dinner then came into my office to ask me for her dessert. We discussed it and she decided on a GFCF brownie. Yum.
Then she called down the hallway, “Mommy, I cannot see (find) my Sweetarts candy. I want Sweetarts.” I explained that she’d already had a dessert, since she’d had her brownie. “But I want my Sweetarts. And Daddy said I could.”
I verified it with my husband and yup, he’d told her she could have candy because HE DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT THE BROWNIE. Carrie had conned me out of a brownie then went to work on Dad for some candy. Then she tried playing us off each other.
And I couldn’t be more proud.
No, I’m not implying that I want to raise a future con artist. I’m just so freaking proud because this was quite possibly the most normal thing Carrie did all day yesterday. It was exactly what a nine-year-old might have done if she had seen a pan of brownies and also knew there was a box of candy in the pantry. She also probably picked up this little scam by watching her sister closely for the past few years! It was completely…normal.
Here’s the downside. Just because it’s normal and I’m glad, it doesn’t mean it’s going to work. I had to explain that we only have one dessert, and also that it’s not nice to ask Mommy for one thing then go ask Daddy for something else. I explained all of it with a pleasant tone and a smile to let her know that she had not done something bad, but that this wasn’t going to be funny in the future.
Then I called everyone I knew to tell them how proud I was!